Wednesday, November 28, 2012

A Message from Ellie - Asking For Your Help

Hello everyone - Ellie here.

There are going to be some changes on this site (behind the scenes, mostly) coming up over the coming weeks/months.  I am so excited this community is growing, and the number of submission and emails from women looking for guidance is growing almost exponentially.

It's been a one-woman show here for a while, now; I don't say that resentfully at all. Please know that. People's lives change and grow (thankfully in many happy ways in this case) and the original team of people who helped me get this off the ground have moved (one of them literally) on to busier things in their lives. The good news is they are doing well. 

For a year or so I thought I could manage on my own - this site takes a lot of attention and maintenance - but it's reached a point where it isn't fair to Crying Out Now and the women it is helping for me to do it all.  I'm working on a plan and asking some new people to come on board.  It's a slow process, but hopefully it will all be sorted out soon.

After contemplating this - literally for over a year - I made the tough decision to put a contribution button on this site.  I have remained steadfast in my commitment never to advertise on CON; I don't want to be beholden to a sponsor, and I think advertising cheapens what the mission of this site is about - women coming together as a community and helping each other.

However, in order to grow this site (actually in order to maintain it) the expenses involved are becoming difficult for me.  Putting a contribution button up was one of the hardest decisions I have made to date.   I had to be okay if nobody contributes, ever, and I am.  This would mean I would have to consider alternative sources of funding (like advertising) or being content with where the site is now and not growing it to reach a larger audience.  

I've been in recovery long enough to know that all I can do is open my heart and mind, do the next right thing after praying on it and asking for advice, and then letting go of the outcome.

However, if you read this site and it helps you, or it helps a loved one, and you have the financial means to contribute even a small amount - either one time or whenever you can afford it - I would greatly appreciate it, and it would help me grow this site to reach more struggling women, and more sober women who want to celebrate recovery. 

I've never talked about 'the numbers' here before, but we get thousands of page views a month from all over the world. I receive, on average, three or four emails a week (sometimes more during difficult times like the holidays) from women who just need a safe place to talk.   I get (and these are awesome) emails from women saying they are getting 6 months, or a year, or even more, and their journey started by telling their story here. 

This isn't my ego talking (I've had to pray on that, too) but the power of voice and community and truth. Your comments and support are the FOUNDATION to this site, truly.  I am so grateful to all of you who offer pieces of yourself and your own story to help someone who feels utterly alone.  I've been there, and I know how much even ONE comforting voice who says "I understand" helps heal a broken spirit. 

I have added a new tab at the top of the page that explains the two ways you can contribute (one is a new book I have produced independently called Let Me Get This Straight (it is a 'best of' compilation from my blog One Crafty Mother and it chronicles my journey through alcoholism/recovery, my battle with cancer, the sudden loss of my father and the trials and joys of daily life with two young kids).  

Proceeds from that book will help fund this site and The Bubble Hour (an internet talk/radio show that was born here at Crying Out Now and is already reaching thousands of people - it is real people telling real stories and offering real practical advice about sobriety, as well as more than a few tips about how to survive and negotiate early sobriety).  There is also a direct contribution button through WePay (credit card only and you can leave your email (voluntarily) if you want a confirmation from CON that you contributed).  You can contribute anonymously, too, and it would show up on your credit card bill as "WePay - Crying Out Now".

We are NOT a non-profit, so they aren't donations.  Any contributions would be made because you believe in this cause and want to help out. 

Even if you never contribute a penny, I'm so glad you're here, reading, commenting and exploring your relationship with alcohol.  

I treasure all of you, truly.




  1. Imagine if everyone that CON has helped gave $5.00....5 bucks!
    Or bought the book!
    Just imagine. I used to spend way more than that a day on booze.
    I think I'm going to estimate what i would have spent on alcohol in a day and give that....
    who's with me?

    1. What a great way of looking at it! Thank you for the suggestion!

  2. Hi Ellie:
    I love this site, I would gladly CON. Thanks so much for giving all of us this space. Not too long ago a spent a lot of money on Chardonnay now, I see this as a much better alternative, and this change has something to do with Crying Out Now...

    1. I really appreciate your support. THANK YOU!

  3. I recently discovered this website and your story. The people on this site are my only support system right now. I will also contribute what I would have spent on beer/wine/vodka in a week. It is the least I can do to say thank you...

  4. Contributed...because this site has been a major player in my sister's sobriety (over 2 years now), and is helping me come to terms with my own drinking problem. I don't think you have any idea of this site's value in the recovery of so many women and those who love them. Thank you!

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    1. Proud of you, too, my friend. I want to be you when I grow up! :) Thank you so much!

  6. This page started me on my sobriety journey and probably saved my life. I truly believe it will do the same for countless other woman.
    So I gratefully and thankfully will support you and your mission.

  7. I am going to buy the book right now..ofcourse! But I want to do more. I feel compelled to do more. How else can I help? -Annie

  8. Although a male, I have gained so much from this site. I am happy to support it financially, and hope that it continues its core mission of helping all who want to be free of alcoholism.

  9. I am going to buy the book too, gladly! Love your site and love the real, humble, gentle yet so strong vibe you give off. This is a beautiful place to visit online, rich with warmth and reality and grit and determination. It is truly amazing and you have done brilliantly to turn it into what you have with such style and grace. I will always remember, in my very early days, watching your video with the Katy Perry number and looking at all those faces of those strong women and crying, crying, crying. You make a big difference and that is priceless - you deserve millions! But in the first instance I'll just buy a book, ok?! xxx