There are going to be some changes on this site (behind the scenes, mostly) coming up over the coming weeks/months. I am so excited this community is growing, and the number of submission and emails from women looking for guidance is growing almost exponentially.
It's been a one-woman show here for a while, now; I don't say that resentfully at all. Please know that. People's lives change and grow (thankfully in many happy ways in this case) and the original team of people who helped me get this off the ground have moved (one of them literally) on to busier things in their lives. The good news is they are doing well.
For a year or so I thought I could manage on my own - this site takes a lot of attention and maintenance - but it's reached a point where it isn't fair to Crying Out Now and the women it is helping for me to do it all. I'm working on a plan and asking some new people to come on board. It's a slow process, but hopefully it will all be sorted out soon.
After contemplating this - literally for over a year - I made the tough decision to put a contribution button on this site. I have remained steadfast in my commitment never to advertise on CON; I don't want to be beholden to a sponsor, and I think advertising cheapens what the mission of this site is about - women coming together as a community and helping each other.
However, in order to grow this site (actually in order to maintain it) the expenses involved are becoming difficult for me. Putting a contribution button up was one of the hardest decisions I have made to date. I had to be okay if nobody contributes, ever, and I am. This would mean I would have to consider alternative sources of funding (like advertising) or being content with where the site is now and not growing it to reach a larger audience.
I've been in recovery long enough to know that all I can do is open my heart and mind, do the next right thing after praying on it and asking for advice, and then letting go of the outcome.
However, if you read this site and it helps you, or it helps a loved one, and you have the financial means to contribute even a small amount - either one time or whenever you can afford it - I would greatly appreciate it, and it would help me grow this site to reach more struggling women, and more sober women who want to celebrate recovery.
I've never talked about 'the numbers' here before, but we get thousands of page views a month from all over the world. I receive, on average, three or four emails a week (sometimes more during difficult times like the holidays) from women who just need a safe place to talk. I get (and these are awesome) emails from women saying they are getting 6 months, or a year, or even more, and their journey started by telling their story here.
This isn't my ego talking (I've had to pray on that, too) but the power of voice and community and truth. Your comments and support are the FOUNDATION to this site, truly. I am so grateful to all of you who offer pieces of yourself and your own story to help someone who feels utterly alone. I've been there, and I know how much even ONE comforting voice who says "I understand" helps heal a broken spirit.
I have added a new tab at the top of the page that explains the two ways you can contribute (one is a new book I have produced independently called Let Me Get This Straight (it is a 'best of' compilation from my blog One Crafty Mother and it chronicles my journey through alcoholism/recovery, my battle with cancer, the sudden loss of my father and the trials and joys of daily life with two young kids).
Proceeds from that book will help fund this site and The Bubble Hour (an internet talk/radio show that was born here at Crying Out Now and is already reaching thousands of people - it is real people telling real stories and offering real practical advice about sobriety, as well as more than a few tips about how to survive and negotiate early sobriety). There is also a direct contribution button through WePay (credit card only and you can leave your email (voluntarily) if you want a confirmation from CON that you contributed). You can contribute anonymously, too, and it would show up on your credit card bill as "WePay - Crying Out Now".
We are NOT a non-profit, so they aren't donations. Any contributions would be made because you believe in this cause and want to help out.
Even if you never contribute a penny, I'm so glad you're here, reading, commenting and exploring your relationship with alcohol.
I treasure all of you, truly.